How’s the captain holding up?

Every tool on this site looks after the person you care for. This one looks after you.

Caregiver strain doesn’t track with hours or tasks — two people with the same to-do list can be in completely different water. Twelve honest questions, two minutes, and you get a plain-English read on how much you’re actually carrying, plus three moves sized to what you can take on right now.

For each one: how often has this been true for you lately?

I feel like the care depends on me, and me alone.
Caregiving takes the time I needed for myself — sleep, meals, rest.
I feel pulled between caregiving and the rest of my life — work, family, or both.
I've stopped doing things I used to enjoy because of caregiving.
I feel tense or braced for the next phone call, even on quiet days.
My own health has slipped since I started caregiving.
I feel frustrated or resentful around the person I care for — and then feel bad about it.
Money worries connected to caregiving weigh on me.
I feel like I've lost the life I was living before this.
I feel alone in this — like nobody really sees what it takes.
I'm not sure I can keep going the way things are.
No matter how much I do, it feels like it's never enough.

Anonymous and free. Nothing you answer is saved. This is a self-awareness tool, not a clinical instrument or a diagnosis. If you’re in danger, call 911 or your local emergency number.